I had posted some other threads about my nephew who bought a drum set for his plan to organize a band of his own. And he also had grew his hair long for that. But the rock band did not materialize maybe for lack of push. Although his grandma is full support to him, no one in the home gave him moral support. I guess you have to nurture the ambition of a young person so he would have the proper direction. Later on, he strayed into photography and the drumming ambition was gone.