That's fair. Most sites I make the name myself. But I figured for one of my sites, I could get a vote on a name. We went with a list of name ideas and people voted on them. So I still sort of had control as they were still some of my ideas. But I have considered listening to peoples name ideas, because some can be quite creative.
Well I don't think anyone would start a forum/site without a name first. I am speaking of the stages before a site is even built, the planning stage essentially. At this stage is where someone could then ask their community (maybe they have multiple sites already up) for name ideas, and to maybe even vote on some. But I don't think anyone starts a website without a name. They may code and develop a site and all that, but I don't think it'd go live until it's fully ready and has a name.