Christopher1
Addicted member
Link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...ost-common-reasons-people-might-criticize-you
- They are threatened by your competence, attractiveness, etc. so they are trying to level the playing field.
- They have a concern about your motivation, skill level, performance or contribution.
- They feel you are not doing your share of the work or being a team player.
- They have a strong unmet need that is not being satisfied.
- They have a controlling personality and have to be in charge.
- They feel entitled to special treatment or status and do not feel they are receiving it.
- They want to make you look bad so as to advance their own position or curry favor with the bosses, etc.
- They feel insecure and are overcompensating.
- They think you are making them look bad in front of others.
- They feel criticized by you and are counter-attacking.
- They think they are genuinely helping you by giving you the benefit of their wisdomor experience.
- They have strong opinions on a subject (e.g., politics, religion etc.) and see other points of view as less valid.
- They are trying to get your attention or connect with you but lack skills, so they end up whining (e.g., kids, teenagers).
- They are testing limits in order to feel more independent (teenagers, young adults).
- They are competing with you for status or position or you are an obstacle to their goal.
- They see themselves as an expert on the topic by virtue of education or experience and they want to share their knowledge with you and be admired.
- They are frustrated with you because they don’t feel you have been hearing them or responding to their requests.
- They are trying to put their own spin on a situation to make them look good or minimize their bad behavior.
- They are setting limits on your disrespectful/inconsiderate behavior.
- They want you to understand how your actions are hurting or disadvantaging them.
- They are trying to bully or intimidate you so they can feel powerful.
- They are defending their own actions by pointing out that you also did some things wrong.
- They lack social skills and are delivering well-meant feedback unskillfully.
- They want to feel important and respected (e.g., an elderly family member).
- They are covering up hurt feelings with anger.
- They are a narcissist and can’t handle your confronting them or not going along with them.
- They have a problem they don’t want to deal with (e.g., substance abuse, spending money) and are trying to get you to back off.
- They feel you are acting unfairly or taking advantage.
- They have different values and perspective than you and are judging you.
- They are trying to shame or humiliate you, perhaps as revenge or a power play.