Who should pay on first date?

[Cory]

The one and only date I've been on my entire life I picked up the bill because I was the one that offered. That's the way I see it, the one that offers should generally pick up the bill. The person might have not wanted to go out to eat that day or doesn't have the funds to do so, so paying for your own offering makes sense to me.

 

[an0nym0us]

In a meeting, men pay with their wallets, while women pay with their presence..

 

[Arantor]

It's actually funny, when we were very first dating, my wife insisted on paying for things. Her reasoning based on previous experience (and her mother's) was that if guys pay for the date, they expect something in return for it beyond 'just company' and at that point you're only haggling over 'the price'.

So her argument was if she pays, there's no debate over whether I'd paid enough for... y'know. It's a surprisingly bleak take on life but that was her experience growing up.

 

[Reverie]

On most first dates I tried to split the price. I hate when I'm expected to pay for everything, so I can't imagine when the person I was dating may have felt like that either. It just seems fair to split the bill.

 

[Debashis]

Who do you think should pay on first date? Men or woman? Perhaps you think they should split the bill ?

As for me, I honestly think the person who should pay the bill, is the person who's idea it was to have a date.

I feel it should be split between the two! #equality 😅

 

[Reverie]

I also understand like what if the person orders an expensive thing and a expensive drink or something! Might as well pay for themselves.

 

[Tracy]

Real simple.. if it was a "date" by invite... the one doing the inviting. If it was a mutual agreement to meet somewhere... then each are responsible for their own payment.
If it was by invite... and you are afraid the other party may order something expensive.. simply don't go to someplace that serves expensive stuff.... what I'm talking about is stuff like going to an establishment in an attempt to "impress" someone, knowing that they have $1500 bottles of champagne or offer high end liquors (which can be upwards of a few $100 a pour).

 

[Empire]

Do what you want. There is no “norm”, everyone has their own preference. I end up not going to a date let her pay then you pay the next day