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Most people who engage in addictive behaviors and go on to develop an actual addiction find that overcoming it is more challenging than they expected.
Even though the difficulties people have with quitting drugs are well known, when people start using, they often feel that addiction is a myth and they can quit any time they want. Or they feel that they are an exception to the rule.
This is even more likely with non-substance, or behavioral, addictions involving activities such as excessive eating, sex, gambling, shopping, masturbation, pornography, lust exercise etc. What makes the situation even more complicated is that for every addictive behavior, there are some people who are able to engage in the behavior without developing an addiction.
This is true of all of the behavioral addictions (some of which involve healthy or necessary actions, like eating, exercise, and shopping). But it's also true of substance use. There are some cases of controlled drinking, recreational marijuana use, and even controlled heroin use.
Most people think they are one of the lucky few who won't get hooked, and unfortunately, don't realize the truth until it is too late.
By the time they recognize the need for change, they may not even want to. It can take years of being faced with the negative consequences of an addiction before realizing that it is causing significant problems.
Make a decision to change.
But sooner or later, most people who have an addiction decide a change needs to happen. Once the decision is made, most people have a specific goal in mind. It might be to quit entirely, to quit some addictive behaviors or substances (but not all), to reduce the amount of time or money spent on addictive behaviors, or to reduce the harm of an addictive behavior.
For example, many drug users decide to quit heroin or meth but continue to drink alcohol, or smoke cigarettes or marijuana. Many heavy drinkers have the goal of just one drink a day, or only drinking socially.
Getting clear on your goal before putting it into practice is helpful for success in changing an addictive behavior.
Even though the difficulties people have with quitting drugs are well known, when people start using, they often feel that addiction is a myth and they can quit any time they want. Or they feel that they are an exception to the rule.
This is even more likely with non-substance, or behavioral, addictions involving activities such as excessive eating, sex, gambling, shopping, masturbation, pornography, lust exercise etc. What makes the situation even more complicated is that for every addictive behavior, there are some people who are able to engage in the behavior without developing an addiction.
This is true of all of the behavioral addictions (some of which involve healthy or necessary actions, like eating, exercise, and shopping). But it's also true of substance use. There are some cases of controlled drinking, recreational marijuana use, and even controlled heroin use.
Most people think they are one of the lucky few who won't get hooked, and unfortunately, don't realize the truth until it is too late.
By the time they recognize the need for change, they may not even want to. It can take years of being faced with the negative consequences of an addiction before realizing that it is causing significant problems.
Make a decision to change.
But sooner or later, most people who have an addiction decide a change needs to happen. Once the decision is made, most people have a specific goal in mind. It might be to quit entirely, to quit some addictive behaviors or substances (but not all), to reduce the amount of time or money spent on addictive behaviors, or to reduce the harm of an addictive behavior.
For example, many drug users decide to quit heroin or meth but continue to drink alcohol, or smoke cigarettes or marijuana. Many heavy drinkers have the goal of just one drink a day, or only drinking socially.
Getting clear on your goal before putting it into practice is helpful for success in changing an addictive behavior.