I am never a dictator, even to staffs and they are being paid. Its just that, I know I make mistakes, so do other people. So being a dictator and saying stuffs when they make mistakes is not a good thing to do imo. I am always friendly and this attitude has worked for me in both online and real life!
But that doesn't mean I don't say anything even if someone fails to do the work. Thats the beauty of being friendly, the only real issue is selecting the people to work with.